Heres how it went down...
Friday morning we have snow(not a normal occurrence here). The perfect beginning to a busy weekend. We seem to have many of these lately.
Today started off with an expectation of some "me time"(nice bubble bath and relaxing quiet time to hear God). Nope not gonna happen!! phone rings... Child has forgotten today is food day and needs food brought to school and yes before Pizza places open. So I begin baking an emergency batch of cookies, get first pan in the oven and receive another call "schools out early due to snow, going home, don't need food- can you come get me I am walking home now?"
Ours lives are full of changes hiccups and unmet expectations. How we respond to them is what will determine the affect they have in our lives. If we choose to think before reacting we can direct the results not only on ourselves but also in the lives of those that are watching us. Yes, there is always someone watching to see how we respond and deal with life.
If a bad situation happens to us we can get angry, let our whole day be disrupted, we can sit and complain about how unfair this is, and why is it happening to me, or we make a choice of a different direction. If we let it get us down then we give in to the situation and give it control. That is control of our day, emotions, even our life. Then we end up following the situation to another situation one after the other and so begins the series of situational events. Who is in control here? Who is the author of these situations? Any trouble can only create more trouble if you allow it. The preference is to stop these bad situations before it begins to give birth. Stop it before the little situations become ginormous dramatic life controlling events and situations.
We can stop this train wreck before it gets started by choosing our response to it. Our response is on purpose and will define our next steps or the direction of the situation. When we choose our response we take control of the events and the situation has a different turn out. We will begin to see things differently without our emotions attending to every thing that comes up. We will change the direction of these situations and disappointments and we will get stronger from them instead of them making us weaker and weaker. We choose our path with the decisions we make. It is up to us to decide how we will allow a situation to set our day or our mood.
Sometimes difficult situations happen to us, because of our own doing and sometimes its from decisions of others. No we cannot control others. They have free will just as much as we do. They are probably not trying to make life more difficult for us either. It's just all they can do at the time due to their focus. We can however make our own decisions to determine our destiny. This is where our values and focus will make a difference to our response to any particular situation. We can work to change us and therefore change our destiny and our direction for our lives. We can change how much we let things trouble us and hinder our path.
What choices can you choose differently had you looked at it a different way?
What will you change for the next missed expectation?
I had many things going through my mind and emotions that morning.Such as...Why did this child wait til last minute... I sure hope I can get this done in time... Well if it doesn't happen in time it just doesn't, the responsibility is not on my shoulders anyway he should have not forgotten... If I can I will... I can at least make the effort...am I encouraging this behavior in him...etc.
I do want things to go well for him, I want good for him. At the same time I don't want to be a hindrance for him, just as our heavenly Father wants what is best for us. He will not create disappointments and trouble for us just to watch us go through it. Truly, He is actually waiting for us to ask His help. He knows the situation and has the answers already, but He will not invite Himself in. He is a gentleman and will come in invited with all the help we need. Our faith in Him is all He needs. Our asking for His help is a small portion of faith, but as we trust in Him more our faith will also grow. Taking control of all our life situations is giving them to God and trusting that He has our best in mind and not ill will towards us. He loves us in such a way you will never understand it.
Friday morning we have snow(not a normal occurrence here). The perfect beginning to a busy weekend. We seem to have many of these lately.
Today started off with an expectation of some "me time"(nice bubble bath and relaxing quiet time to hear God). Nope not gonna happen!! phone rings... Child has forgotten today is food day and needs food brought to school and yes before Pizza places open. So I begin baking an emergency batch of cookies, get first pan in the oven and receive another call "schools out early due to snow, going home, don't need food- can you come get me I am walking home now?"Ours lives are full of changes hiccups and unmet expectations. How we respond to them is what will determine the affect they have in our lives. If we choose to think before reacting we can direct the results not only on ourselves but also in the lives of those that are watching us. Yes, there is always someone watching to see how we respond and deal with life.
If a bad situation happens to us we can get angry, let our whole day be disrupted, we can sit and complain about how unfair this is, and why is it happening to me, or we make a choice of a different direction. If we let it get us down then we give in to the situation and give it control. That is control of our day, emotions, even our life. Then we end up following the situation to another situation one after the other and so begins the series of situational events. Who is in control here? Who is the author of these situations? Any trouble can only create more trouble if you allow it. The preference is to stop these bad situations before it begins to give birth. Stop it before the little situations become ginormous dramatic life controlling events and situations.
Sometimes difficult situations happen to us, because of our own doing and sometimes its from decisions of others. No we cannot control others. They have free will just as much as we do. They are probably not trying to make life more difficult for us either. It's just all they can do at the time due to their focus. We can however make our own decisions to determine our destiny. This is where our values and focus will make a difference to our response to any particular situation. We can work to change us and therefore change our destiny and our direction for our lives. We can change how much we let things trouble us and hinder our path.
What choices can you choose differently had you looked at it a different way?
What will you change for the next missed expectation?
I had many things going through my mind and emotions that morning.Such as...Why did this child wait til last minute... I sure hope I can get this done in time... Well if it doesn't happen in time it just doesn't, the responsibility is not on my shoulders anyway he should have not forgotten... If I can I will... I can at least make the effort...am I encouraging this behavior in him...etc.
I do want things to go well for him, I want good for him. At the same time I don't want to be a hindrance for him, just as our heavenly Father wants what is best for us. He will not create disappointments and trouble for us just to watch us go through it. Truly, He is actually waiting for us to ask His help. He knows the situation and has the answers already, but He will not invite Himself in. He is a gentleman and will come in invited with all the help we need. Our faith in Him is all He needs. Our asking for His help is a small portion of faith, but as we trust in Him more our faith will also grow. Taking control of all our life situations is giving them to God and trusting that He has our best in mind and not ill will towards us. He loves us in such a way you will never understand it.
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